Things Playboy magazine hides from you about the joy of sex, the origin of sex, the purpose of sex, sad sex, perverted sex, sexual bondage, sexual fraud, selling sex in prostitution, sex without marriage, sex by force (rape) , free sex (fornication), sexy photography (pornography), sexy clothes, nudity, same sex marriages (homosexuality, lesbianism, and sodomy), transvestites, sex in marriage, and dishonest sex (adultery).   Read on and learn facts even your sex-education teacher in public school is not allowed to tell you!
 

Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. (Prov 5.18-19)

He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love. Stay me with flagons, comfort me with apples: for I am sick of love. His left hand is under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me. I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please. (Song of Solomon 2.4-8)

How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights! (Song of Solomon 7.6)

Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my spouse ; thou hast ravished my heart with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thy neck. How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse ! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices! Thy lips, O my spouse , drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon. A garden enclosed is my sister, my spouse ; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed....Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits. (Song of Solomon 4.9-16)

And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul....And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make an help meet for him....And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; and the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man....Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. (Gen 2.7-25)
  The Purpose of Sex

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth, and subdue it. (Gen 1.27-18)

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. (Ps 127.3.5)

A Song of degrees. Blessed is every one that feareth the LORD; that walketh in his ways. For thou shalt eat the labour of thine hands: happy shalt thou be , and it shall be well with thee. Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table. Behold, that thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the LORD. The LORD shall bless thee out of Zion: and thou shalt see the good of Jerusalem all the days of thy life. Yea, thou shalt see thy children's children, and peace upon Israel. (Ps 128.1-6)

Human sexuality is the creation and plan of God to multiply the human race. Sex as God planned it was and is "very good" (Gen 1.31). God, Himself, preformed the first wedding ceremony. The first home consisted of one man married to one woman , living with each other and obeying God's command to have sex in order to have children, thus multiplying the human race. They were to train their children to love and obey God. Since sex within marriage is righteous not sinful, the husband and his wife were not ashamed though naked before each other. God commanded that when a young man marries a young woman, he is to leave his parents, and set up a separate household. Such is the ideal home. In such a home sex is just naturally "very good."
 

When God first created sex and the home there was no sin. Adam and Eve always agreed about everything. Since they both were in perfect harmony with God, they never argued or blamed each other for things going wrong. Indeed nothing ever did go wrong. Everything was very good. The Garden of Eden where they lived was truly a paradise. But sin---transgression of God's law---ruined all that for them and for us. Sin corrupted human nature, so that husband and wife became selfish and no longer loved each other perfectly as before. Evil desires replaced righteous desires. Guilt and shame brought anxiety and blame casting into their home. Adam and Eve now often disagreed and argued. The spiritual joy of sex was replaced by confusion. Sin is what makes sex sad. To this very day everyone on earth suffers from a sin problem. But, as will be shown later in this pamphlet, God can wash away sin so as to make sex glad again!
 

Sex as God intended it is holy, beautiful, and both physically and spiritually satisfying. Sex only becomes dirty, ugly and both physically and spiritually frustrating when perverted and abused. Unfortunately, one of the tendencies of fallen human nature is toward sexual perversion. Perversion means deviating from what is right, good, true or normal. Pervert means to turn to an improper use; to misuse. God did not create man with a fallen nature. But by disobeying God, Adam fell into sin, and his nature degenerated into depravity. Depravity means altered, prone to enter into bad habits. All of Adam's descendants receive from him a depraved nature, inclined to do evil. "For by one man's disobedience many were made sinners" (Rom 5.19). People are not sinners because they sin, rather they sin because they are sinners. All of Adam's descendants, therefore, must resist inherited tendencies to pervert sex, lest such tendencies quickly become addictions, enslaving them in the vilest practices. "Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves to obey, his servant ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?" (Rom 6.16). True freedom does not abuse one's self or others, but sexual perversion always abuses. Sexual perversion is not liberty, nor is it love; it is licentiousness and lust; it is selfishness and hatred. Later we will discuss how to have liberty from a depraved nature. First, however, some common forms of sexual perversion are discussed below. The penalty God says civil government should execute upon offenders is also shown in some cases. It must be stressed that religious groups or individuals do not have authority to execute these penalties---only civil governments have that authority. However, when a society elects a form of civil government which by design will not protect good people from being exploited by sex perverts, that society will soon fall; the land will vomit that society out.
 

One of the most common forms of sexual perversion is divorce---a dishonest and hateful breaking of one's marriage vow. When it comes to marriage, quitters never win, and winners never quit. For the sake of both mates and for the sake of their children, God intends for the sexual relationship called marriage to last until one of the mates dies. A widow or widower is free to remarry; but God hates divorce.

Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. (Rom 7.1-3)

And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife....The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord (1 Cor 7.10-11 and 39)

But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away [divorce] his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. (Mat 5.32)

When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife . And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance. (Deut 24.1-4)

And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you? And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter . And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. (Mat 10.2-12)

Another form of sexual perversion is defraudation. Defraudation is the act of depriving someone of rights or property, etc. by deception or fraud; to cheat. Marriage is a legal relationship in which a person gives to another person of the opposite sex one's own body for sexual privileges. Having sex outside the marriage relationship is sin, but refraining from sex within the marriage relationship is also sin. To deny one's lawfully wedded mate legitimate sexual privileges is defraudation, and makes a mockery of marriage. Sadly, many modern women (and some men also) have been deceived by certain Satanic movements which teach that even within marriage sex is rape. Such a teaching is ungodly and untrue, as the following Bible passage shows.

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. (1 Cor 7.1-5)

Premarital sex, extramarital sex, affairs, promiscuousness, etc., are all modern terms for the sexual perversions the Bible calls fornication and adultery. Fornication being the physical act of sex outside of marriage, and adultery being fornication in which the marriage vow is also broken. Adultery marks a person as dishonest as well as immoral. Sex within marriage is holy, good and honest; but sex outside of marriage is dirty, evil and dishonest. A prostitute, a whore, or harlot, is a woman who will sell her sexual services for any price other than marriage.

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (Heb 13.4)

If mine heart have been deceived by a woman, or if I have laid wait at my neighbour's door; then let my wife grind unto another, and let others bow down upon her. For this is an heinous crime; yea, it is an iniquity to be punished by the judges. For it is a fire that consumeth to destruction, and would root out all mine increase. (Job 31.9-12)

Say unto wisdom, Thou art my sister; and call understanding thy kinswoman: that they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words. For at the window of my house I looked through my casement, and beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding, passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house, in the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night: and, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtle of heart. (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.) So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him, I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows. Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee. I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works , with fine linen of Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves. For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey: he hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed. With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him. He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks; till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life. Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death. (Prov 7.4-26)

My son, keep thy father's commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother....For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life: to keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent. Men do not despise a thief, if he steal to satisfy his soul when he is hungry; but if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house. But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away. For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts. (Prov 6.20-35)

And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowery of virgins. (Exodus 22:16-17; see also Deut 22.13-29)
 

The word pornography is a combination of two Greek words: "porno" which means fornication, and "graphe" which means writing, meaning writing about fornication. As used today pornography means pictures or writings intended to arouse sexual desire.

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: but I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. (Mat 5.27-28) For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he. (Prov 23.7)

Rape is to have sex with someone forcibly and without that person's consent. In fornication both partners to the act want it, so both partners should pay the penalty. In rape, however, an evil act is forced upon an unconsenting, innocent person. It is important to be certain that the rapist is punished and that his innocent victim is protected.

If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her; then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbour's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you. But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die: But unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbour, and slayeth him, even so is this matter: for he found her in the field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was none to save her. (Deut. 22:22-27)
 

A transvestite is a person who derives sexual pleasure by dressing in the clothes of the opposite sex. This practice is strongly condemned and forbidden in the Bible.

The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God. (Deut 22.5)
  Sodomy

If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. And if a man take a wife and her mother, it is wickedness: they shall be burnt with fire, both he and they; that there be no wickedness among you. And if a man lie with a beast, he shall surely be put to death: and ye shall slay the beast. And if a woman approach unto any beast, and lie down thereto, thou shalt kill the woman, and the beast: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. (Lev 20.13-16)

For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: and likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient....who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them. (Rom 1.26-32)
 

If thou wilt not observe to do all the words of this law that are written in this book, that thou mayest fear this glorious and fearful name, THE LORD THY GOD; then the LORD will make thy plagues wonderful, and the plagues of thy seed, even great plagues, and of long continuance, and sore sicknesses, and of long continuance. Moreover he will bring upon thee all the diseases of Egypt, which thou wast afraid of; and they shall cleave unto thee. Also every sickness, and every plague, which is not written in the book of this law, them will the LORD bring upon thee, until thou be destroyed. And ye shall be left few in number, whereas ye were as the stars of heaven for multitude; because thou wouldest not obey the voice of the LORD thy God. And it shall come to pass, that as the LORD rejoiced over you to do you good, and to multiply you; so the LORD will rejoice over you to destroy you, and to bring you to nought; and ye shall be plucked from off the land whither thou goest to possess it. (Deut 28.58-67)
 

Why wear clothes? After Adam and Eve sinned "they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons" (Gen 3.7). Realizing that sin had corrupted human nature, they knew they needed to wear clothes for their own protection. Nevertheless, their now corrupted natures made them desire to be attractive sensually, so they made aprons, covering only their private parts. That they knew their aprons did not adequately cover their nakedness is obvious from the fact that they "hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God" (Gen 3.8). Immodest clothing still causes multitudes to hid from God. But the fact that virtually no one goes totally nude publicly testifies to the fact that the conscience of man informs him that God is, and that therefore there are absolute rights and absolute wrongs. The idea that there are no absolutes is illogical and stupid; for if there are no absolutes, then it must not be absolutely true that there are no absolutes; therefore it must be absolutely true that there are absolutes.

God was not pleased with Adam's and Eve's sexy clothing. "Unto Adam also and to his wife did the LORD God make coats of skins, and clothed them" (Gen 3.21). In order to make coats of skins, innocent animals had to die, their shed blood typifying the blood of the coming Savior who would die for our sins on the cross of Calvary, the just suffering death for the unjust, that He might reconcile us to God.

Therefore as by the offence of one [Adam] judgment came upon all men to condemnation; even so by the righteousness of one [Jesus Christ] the free gift came upon all men unto justification of life. For as by one man's disobedience many were made sinners, so by the obedience of one shall many be made righteous. Moreover the law entered, that the offence might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound: that as sin hath reigned unto death, even so might grace reign through righteousness unto eternal life by Jesus Christ our Lord. What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?...Knowing this, that our old man is crucified with him , that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin. For he that is dead is freed from sin. (Rom 5.17-6.7)

People who are in bondage to sexual perversions can be set free by faith in the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ. If you have committed sexual sins, be assured that you can be saved from them, provided you come to God on His conditions, which are "repentance toward God, and faith toward the Lord Jesus Christ" (Acts 20.21). No matter how vile your sins, Jesus Christ can wash them away with His precious blood. Many members of the church of Corinth had formerly been sex offenders. But the blood of Jesus had washed them clean, and made them new creatures in Christ. By being born again they were given new natures, and were no longer the whores, whoremongers, fornicators, adulterers, transvestites, homosexuals, etc. that they formerly were.

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind [homosexuals], nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God . (1 Cor 6.9-11)

For when they speak great swelling words of vanity, they allure through the lusts of the flesh, through much wantonness, those that were clean escaped from them who live in error. While they promise them liberty, they themselves are the servants of corruption: for of whom a man is overcome, of the same is he brought in bondage. (2 Pet 2.18-19)

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